First Emails: Keeping it Classy in an Adult World Will Serve You Well!
SUMMED UP: Keeping it classy in a first dating email is the best way to make a positive first impression. However, being classy isn’t the only thing that will ensure a response. You also need to be able to catch her attention with a creative introduction, body, and conclusion.
The first email on an adult dating site is as important of a step towards getting laid as there is. Yes, we are talking about adult sites where men and women go to find a sex partner. Because of that, most guys use the first email as an opportunity to prove how big their schlong is (usually exaggerating the size) and what they’re capable of doing with that schlong (usually exaggerating their talents yet again). This is a terrible idea.
The truth is most guys don’t know what to say on a dating site (adult or otherwise). They allow their hormones to get the best of them and once they sign-up all they can think about is making sexy time to a hot chick. You’re probably thinking to yourself, “well, duh, isn’t that the whole purpose of signing up for an adult dating site?”
Touche. But you have to understand something about women. Even the ones looking for nothing more than a sexual relationship want to get to know you as a person before hopping into bed with you. Therefore, if you’re sending out a first email laced with sexual innuendos and graphic details of your sexual prowess, it will be a major turn off.
The first thing you should say to a woman – even on an adult dating site – is a bit about yourself and perhaps something you like about her (i.e. you have a certain hobby in common). The first email is mostly an opportunity for you to build some interest with her. After she finishes reading your email, you want her to think, “okay, this guy seems cool, I need to find out more about him.”
If you can do that, she’ll respond to your email. Then you can get her into a conversation over Instant Messenger or text. That’s where you start to build up the attraction. You aren’t going to get laid from a first email anyway, so why include a bunch of sexual remarks? It’s not like she’s going to read an email from a guy she’s never talked to that says, “I’ll do you so hard doggystyle” and be like, “will you come over tonight and screw me?”
Have some class. You’ve never spoken to this girl before. She knows nothing about you other than from what you say in your profile and your pictures. You could be a serial killer for all she knows. So don’t think for one second that she’s going to do you right off the bat without getting to know you beyond that first email. Remember, build rapport then go for the poon!
4 Additional First Email Strategies that Guarantee You WON’T Get a Response
Okay, that’s a tad misleading. Actually, you might get a response if you use the following strategies in your first email. Unfortunately, it won’t be a positive response. She’ll message you back to let you know what a pathetic loser you are. And if you do make these mistakes, she’ll only be telling the truth…
1. Bragging too much about yourself
Guys confuse confidence and cockiness all the time. There is a MAJOR difference. It’s a good idea to display confidence in an email, but it’s a HORRIBLE idea to brag about what an awesome guy you are (unless it’s an obvious joke).
2. Making the email too short or too long
Don’t write a novel when sending an email. She won’t read half of it. But if your message is just one or two lines, she probably won’t respond. You can only say so much in 1-2 lines. That’s not enough to convince her you’re worth getting to know. Shoot for about 100 words. Somewhere around there is perfect.
3. Using profanities
We really don’t need to say much on this. If you don’t understand that cussing at a girl in an email is a turn off, you’re not going to get laid anyway.
4. Being highly offensive
You don’t have to use profanities to offend a woman. Making comments about the size of her rack = offensive. Telling her you’d like to pound her in the ass = offensive. Women enjoy compliments about things such as their sense of humor, style, hair, and eyes. There’s no need to compliment her on her ass or tits.
4 First Email Strategies that Guarantee You WILL Get a HIGH Response Rate
1. A catchy introduction
Grab her attention IMMEDIATELY. To be honest, the body is merely filler content space. The introduction is what will either hook her or lose her. Say something catchy or funny. If you’re creative enough to use a play on words, go ahead and do that.
2. Talking about her interests intelligently
Before emailing her, make sure you’ve read through her profile. Pick out one or two things you have in common (i.e. love to travel or something like that) and bring it up in the body of he email. This shows her you took the time to read her profile and that you have something in common.
3. Ask her a question at the end
Want to chat with her later that evening? Ask her to chat with you! It’s really simple to finish off the email by asking her to do something.
4. Be friendly and funny
Everyone loves meeting people that have a sense of humor. If you’re not the best looking guy, a sense of humor will help you overcome that with women. So be funny and friendly. This will catch her attention.